The Mentor is also the Mentee

The Mentor is also the Mentee

A series by 17160 Stephen Kalyta

Stephen Kalyta

I only recently discovered, my Mentor has trained in Mindfulness for many years as part of his meditation regimen. Last evening I spoke to him about my continued desire to reach out to the cadets through the forum of eVeritas magazine and the grace of Bill and Rolande. To be a great Mentor, one must also be willing to be a reflective and open Mentee.

Consequently as part of my own development, we discussed at a high level, the flow of my past articles of eVeritas. It was only from this discussion that I discovered his deep connection and practice of Mindfulness. As a Patriot, Mike feels strongly about supporting the welfare of the cadets as our country’s future leaders. This article was inspired by my Mentor’s Pearls of Wisdom. What follows is a synopsis of our discussion.

We are all a perpetual work in progress, from a new recruit on through to the CDS. Our noblest goal is to BE the absolute highest expression of Self and live those values daily. It is the journey toward that goal that is relevant because achieving the end game is an illusion. There is no end game. Mike then closed with a profound statement to me, on the multi-faceted aspect of Mindfulness as a leader.

Many of us in the military are familiar with the expression, “time is seldom wasted on a good reconnaissance.” Of course the rationale for that statement is rooted in the need to understand the environment as a precursor to planning an operation. However my Mentor took this logic one step further by saying, ” If you spent even 1% more time on that recce to confirm what you think you observed, that extra 1% could change 100% of your assumptions.”

We are wired to make decisions in a timely manner, with the information that is available to us. Sometimes in an effort to show we are “keen” we may rush into a situation to get the job done. A more informed approach of balancing expediency with efficiency may yield a 100 fold better result. It ultimately comes down to the skill of separating the perception of urgency from reality. This again is another dimension of Mindfulness.

This article is offered for training purposes. It should not be seen as a substitute for obtaining professional counselling.

Previous article in this series:

Finding the Commandant’s approach quite interesting

Mindfulness (Part 2)

Mindfulness Makes Better Warriors (part 1)

Perfection versus Good Enough


‘Gratitude toward Self’

Mid-term monsters and an altered academic reality

Oh what a night!

Cadets and Valour

Calling out all cadets with bars…

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